ted talk: on arguing

So why do we even try to argue? Why do we try to convince other people to believe things that they don't want to believe? And is that even a nice thing to do? Is that a nice way to treat another human being, try and make them think something they don't want to think?

we think of arguments as war, and you know what that's like. There's a lot of screaming and shouting and winning and losing, and that's not really a very helpful model for arguing but it's a pretty common and entrenched model for arguing.

arguments as proofs.

arguments as performances, arguments as being in front of an audience
arguments are also audiences in front of juries who make a judgment and decide the case.